If there is one thing I can be 100% sure of it’s that good things are on the way to me. Time and time again I have seen how even in the most challenging and strange circumstances things have always worked out in my favor.
I can think of a lot of things that I have personally felt when it comes to my own healing journey and mental health. I think the one connecting thread in some of my toughest experiences has been fear. It’s important to celebrate the wins and to marvel at all of the progress that has been made. It’s just as important to be able to look back on the past on learn from it.
Sometimes you may be doing something random. It could be taking a class, eating out at a restaurant, or even going for a walk. You could be minding your business and having a great time until a certain feeling or emotion comes up. You know it’s not coming from what you’re doing. This feeling is familiar to you and the next thing you have to do is understand where that feeling is coming from…
Can you believe we are actually getting to the end of 2021? The irony is that as we enter into 2022 we are headed straight into the path of another COVID surge. I can see how this is nerve wracking for a lot of people. Even I’m concerned! Let’s no forget the fact that I have been in a pandemic for a good portion of my twenties (this definitely is not the biggest issue, but I mean can I get some time to enjoy the world?).
The mind is definitely a powerful thing. It can come up with some amazing ideas and creative pursuits. It can also be home to our own worst critic. How do we learn to quiet the mind? How do we keep ourselves from negative self-talk and gaslighting? We’ve all been in a place where maybe we are more critical of ourselves than we need to be. For this reason it’s important to employ techniques and coping skills that help us become our own cheerleader rather than our own worst critic.
So after 6 months I wrapped up my last therapy session and I am so proud of how far I’ve come. I didn’t think that therapy was something that could really be accessible to me, but I am happy that I took out the time to prioritize me.
I’ve been thinking a lot about validation and what that means for me. It’s easy to understand validation from the aspect of wanting to be accepted and wanting to feel like the things I say and do matter. But there is one issue that I’ve come to understand. We focus too much on receiving validation from other people and it can keep us stuck from growing into our own. We can get so caught up in wanting to be validated by others that we neglect to really check in with ourselves.
One thing we have to do in life is learn how to work with difficult people. Whether it’s a family member, friend, colleague, etc. we have to be able to make sure we can accomplish our goals and tasks. In my own personal experience there are certain people who will act harshly either because they don’t care or they have nothing to lose. In other cases it could be something deeper than that like maybe projecting an insecurity. So how do we deal with people who may have difficult personalities, how do we know when someone may be projecting and what does America’s Next Top Model have to do with any of this?
A quarter-life crisis is something that’s unique to people in their mid twenties to early and one of thirties. Life can quickly become tricky and one of the trickiest things to figure out is the future. What happens when our future is unclear and we begin questioning the the things we’ve been taught are the “right things to do”?
It’s easy to feel like you need more. Maybe you feel like you need more friends. Or maybe you feel like you need more things to come your way. Sometimes you might feel like you just need someone to acknowledge who you are or how much you mean to them. Regardless of what you desire people are going to show up differently in your life.