It’s easy to feel like you need more. Maybe you feel like you need more friends. Or maybe you feel like you need more things to come your way. Sometimes you might feel like you just need someone to acknowledge who you are or how much you mean to them. Regardless of what you desire people are going to show up differently in your life.

Friendships look different for everyone.

You could have a tight circle of friends, a few people that text you every now and then, or even your family members that show love to you everyday. For a while I felt like I needed to have more people around me. I never really felt like I had the kind of relationships I really wanted at the time. It was almost as if what I had was never enough. In hindsight, I was letting what I saw in other people’s lives influence the kind of “friendships” I thought I wanted to have.

I would love to have a tight circle of likeminded people around me, but maybe for this season that I’m in I just need to find out who I am apart from what I think I need and apart from how people have treated me in the past. Something that’s important is making sure you reach out to those people who really get you and can help you through whatever it is you are feeling. For me that is my immediate family, for you it could be a cousin, a neighbor, a teacher, etc.

Don’t be afraid to get to know who you are. Acknowledge the different kinds of relationships in your life and really take the time to determine if they are ones you really need at this moment. There is no shortage of people in the world and I believe if you put in the effort to get to know who you are and seek intentional relationships you’ll be better off than you were before.

Don’t feel any pressure to have a certain number in your group. What matters is that you seek out those who uplift you and help you grow as a person.