We all grow up learning a few simple lessons. The sky is blue, two plus two equals four and so many other things. One thing that I think gets preached down to us is that our best is always enough (and before you start thinking I believe the opposite, think again). Yes our best really is enough… but why does it feel like this isn’t always true?
If you’ve been following and reading these blog posts, you’ll know that I’ve been trying to develop more trust with myself and my decisions. A part of that is practicing healthy habits and being intentional about the things I do. One of those things I wanted to focus on was creating more experiences for myself and getting out more.
There’s a lot that goes into trying to make content and it can be draining, but also exciting. I started writing and creating in 2013 and a lot has changed since then…
So I just turned 26 and I am obviously accepting the fact that my 30’s are looming ahead (on that note, please remember to live in the present so you don’t go down rabbit holes). I am also accepting the fact that it’s okay to live life out loud and present the highest version of myself.
Can you believe we are actually getting to the end of 2021? The irony is that as we enter into 2022 we are headed straight into the path of another COVID surge. I can see how this is nerve wracking for a lot of people. Even I’m concerned! Let’s no forget the fact that I have been in a pandemic for a good portion of my twenties (this definitely is not the biggest issue, but I mean can I get some time to enjoy the world?).
I’ve been thinking a lot about validation and what that means for me. It’s easy to understand validation from the aspect of wanting to be accepted and wanting to feel like the things I say and do matter. But there is one issue that I’ve come to understand. We focus too much on receiving validation from other people and it can keep us stuck from growing into our own. We can get so caught up in wanting to be validated by others that we neglect to really check in with ourselves.
One thing we have to do in life is learn how to work with difficult people. Whether it’s a family member, friend, colleague, etc. we have to be able to make sure we can accomplish our goals and tasks. In my own personal experience there are certain people who will act harshly either because they don’t care or they have nothing to lose. In other cases it could be something deeper than that like maybe projecting an insecurity. So how do we deal with people who may have difficult personalities, how do we know when someone may be projecting and what does America’s Next Top Model have to do with any of this?
A quarter-life crisis is something that’s unique to people in their mid twenties to early and one of thirties. Life can quickly become tricky and one of the trickiest things to figure out is the future. What happens when our future is unclear and we begin questioning the the things we’ve been taught are the “right things to do”?
In a world of social media, retweets, followers and likes it can be difficult to find your voice. There are plenty of moments where I’ve felt like my voice wasn’t special (which is ironic since I’ve been blog writing for some years now). It can seem that way when you feel you aren’t validated, but the key is to figure out how to validate yourself.