In a world of social media, retweets, followers and likes it can be difficult to find your voice. There are plenty of moments where I’ve felt like my voice wasn’t special (which is ironic since I’ve been blog writing for some years now). It can seem that way when you feel you aren’t validated, but the key is to figure out how to validate yourself.

I originally started blog writing because I felt like I had a message that could help other people. I wanted to have an outlet and a blog seemed like the perfect solution. I think there’s a fire inside each and every one of us that starts burning when we find something we are truly passionate about. I personally believe following that passion will help you find the place you need to be. Of course I’m no expert, and I am still on my own journey of finding my voice. The journey has at times been murky and unclear, but at each and every turn I’ve remembered to lean into my support system and trust that “what will be will be” and that “I am exactly where I need to be”.

Our voices matter.

I think we all have moments where we feel unsure. No matter your age, background or experience there will be moments where you may feel you don’t even know what your voice sounds like. In the process of finding your voice there will be new lessons learned and experiences acquired. All of these things contribute to your voice and in all reality it is okay to be unsure sometimes. You have to be able to show yourself grace and allow yourself to be okay with uncertainty and this is definitely easier said than done.

There’s a weird magic that happens when people are able to have their voices heard and contribute to a conversation in an intimate setting. The best conversations don’t always take place in front of millions of people, but between a dedicated few who want to genuinely connect and learn from the experiences of others (at least I’d like to think that).

Here are some things that I’ve done to help me in validating my own voice:

• Speak to someone you trust: Whether you seek out a therapist or talk to a friend or family member, it is important to share your energy with people who will affirm you and listen to what you have to say. When we hold ourselves back we deny ourselves the opportunity to find our real voice. Don’t let doubt or self-limiting beliefs hold you back.
• Journal: This is a favorite pastime of mine, but journaling is great because it is freeing and allows you to get everything off your chest.
• Broadcast your message: It can be hard to take a step and move into really sharing your voice with the world (or Google). Whether you start a blog or start a podcast, there are people who will hear and appreciate your message. Even if you only get a few likes or views. Don’t let the façade of “success” keep you from speaking your truth.
• Affirm yourself: Showing kindness to yourself needs to be a daily practice. Build up your confidence!