Maybe you’re in this position, or maybe you’re realizing that you’re heading in this direction. It’s possible that you’re like me. Always doing the right things, saying the right things, and always being the right one. It’s a wonder how you seem to get everything right. So what happens when everything starts feeling wrong?
If there is one thing I can be 100% sure of it’s that good things are on the way to me. Time and time again I have seen how even in the most challenging and strange circumstances things have always worked out in my favor.
There’s something to be said for actually having the time and space to figure out who it is you want to be, where you want to go, and ultimately what it is you truly want for yourself. The highs and lows are endless and there are so many lessons to be learned along the way. Along with the pleasure of stepping into your true form and becoming the highest version of yourself, comes a very unique pain that is a unique part of the process…
We’re always changing, and the fact is that we don’t know who we’re going to be, or what’s going to happen in the next month let alone the next year. We have some routines that are established and habits that we’ve formed, and we may not know a life without those things. Change can be a scary thing and there has to be some motivation or even a simple reason why we want to start changing.
If you’ve been following and reading these blog posts, you’ll know that I’ve been trying to develop more trust with myself and my decisions. A part of that is practicing healthy habits and being intentional about the things I do. One of those things I wanted to focus on was creating more experiences for myself and getting out more.
So after 6 months I wrapped up my last therapy session and I am so proud of how far I’ve come. I didn’t think that therapy was something that could really be accessible to me, but I am happy that I took out the time to prioritize me.
One thing we have to do in life is learn how to work with difficult people. Whether it’s a family member, friend, colleague, etc. we have to be able to make sure we can accomplish our goals and tasks. In my own personal experience there are certain people who will act harshly either because they don’t care or they have nothing to lose. In other cases it could be something deeper than that like maybe projecting an insecurity. So how do we deal with people who may have difficult personalities, how do we know when someone may be projecting and what does America’s Next Top Model have to do with any of this?
A quarter-life crisis is something that’s unique to people in their mid twenties to early and one of thirties. Life can quickly become tricky and one of the trickiest things to figure out is the future. What happens when our future is unclear and we begin questioning the the things we’ve been taught are the “right things to do”?
I think something that social media really fuels is the need to be accepted or validated by other people. It’s almost as if it’s not enough to have a really interesting hobby or to be a relatable person. Now it seems as if you can only really be all that you are if you have at least one hundred likes, one thousand followers or twenty plus comments on Instagram. This isn’t to knock down anyone who has found success using social media (more power to you). The issue at hand is really that we are allowing “acceptance” from other people to define who we are or who we can become. I’ve been guilty of this even beyond social media.